What Does a Stay at Home Mom DO All Day?

January 28, 2014 § Leave a comment

With three little ones with no formal schooling yet and a pretty clear calendar – aside from doctor visits, dentist visits, and random appointments for the car and things that crop up – we have a fairly loose schedule around here. Some people ask what I do with my days, especially since we’re currently a one car family and I am literally a stay at home mom five to six days a week.

First I’d like to say, in all honesty, that I love being home with my kids! We decided last fall that we needed to give up a car payment and strive to get to a place where we have no car payments or lease payments or new washing machine bills etc. It was a cold turkey kind of thing and I was actually very excited to have one less check to write each month (it was a special situation with a family member, not your average car payment, thankfully), but in the back of my head I thought, “oh boy, I hope I’m not miserable in a couple of months after not having my own car to take out whenever I please”. But I’ve recently been coming to a place of peace and joy being at home. The Lord wants women to focus on their families and taking care of their homes and I’ve been so blessed to be growing in my role as a wife, mother, and homemaker. It’s freeing being “stuck” home. Titus 2:4-5 says:

Then {older women} can urge the younger women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind, and to be subject to their husbands, so that no one will malign the word of God.

Proverbs 31 also speaks about a virtuous or noble wife being someone who is up early and late to bed taking care to prepare food for her family, a strong person who works hard, a woman who can work and make money working from home and makes decisions in financial situations with her husband.

I could rabbit trail so I’ll stop there. I want to be the wife and mother the Lord wants me to be. ‘Nuff said.

So anyways. Back to being at home and what we do each day!

Our typical day starts with me waking about an hour or more before the boys to shower and have some quiet time. A goal I set sometime near the end of my last pregnancy is getting all of us dressed and ready for the day, even though most days we’re home. It’s been months and months and almost every single day – except for the occasional Saturday now that daddy has a two-day weekend – we get dressed first thing in the morning in everything but our shoes unless we’re going out to play, and almost every day Dante still asks where we’re going *Ha!* That being said, it is easiest if I get up and shower and dress and blow-dry my hair before the kids get up for obvious reasons that don’t need to be explained.

Chris leaves early. I go in and get the boys up from bed at 7 – they always wake before 7 but they are required to stay in bed and wait for me to come get them. Do they always follow my rule book perfectly? No. But they do so much better than I anticipated, especially with Stefano in a toddler bed!

We usually play for an hour or so… I like to let them work up an appetite since they’re more into their toys than eating first thing in the morning… or any time of the day, really.

After breakfast they will go back to playing. We often spend a little time reading together, and then I start in on dishes and cleaning up the kitchen from breakfast. The baby goes in the pack n’ play so that I don’t have to worry about him getting squashed while I’m out of ear shot.

Right now, with a baby napping twice a day, his morning nap time is when we go play outside (winter and infants do not mix in my book), or practice some letters or numbers, or read a portion of Scripture and practice our memory verse if we haven’t already done that, OR prepare dinner if it’s a crock pot meal or something that needs to be done early in the day. The possibilities are endless! If it’s something I want to do while the little man is sleeping, this is when I aim to do it.

And the day kind of continues with rounds of sitting and reading with them, or my own book while they play close by, then giving them their alone time to play, again, while I vacuum or dust, or quick-clean one of our small bathroom floors. Often one or both big boys will ask to help whatever it is I’m doing be it switching over the laundry or washing a floor and while sometimes the fact that it’s slowing me down drives me nuts I try to let them help me because it is so important for children to know what an important part of our team they are. As they get older I will establish some more set chores, but I’m happy to let them work alongside me while they’re at this young it’s-so-fun-to-scrub-the-floor age.

After the afternoon naps are done, it’s pretty much a waiting game while we anticipate daddy coming home; dinner prep if it’s not already done, puzzles, play-doh, more pack n’ play time for baby bop.

All in day’s work!

One of the most important things that I can really focus on while we’re home each day, sticking to our routine without multiple distractions or outside influences weighing us down, is discipline. If we’re going going going sometimes it can feel burdensome to stop and correct or even to be consistent – not intentionally of course. But at home doing our family time thing each day it is easier and more routine within the routine to stop and take care of an attitude problem or to work on that nagging biting issue that’s been a real bother… true story about the biting… you should see the bruise on poor Dante’s arm.. oops! Did that give away the culprit?

Do I get a little stir crazy sometimes? Do I crave adult company at times? Do I sometimes wish with all my heart that I could pack up the kids and take a quick stress relief trip to Starbucks? Of course! But I enjoy just being home with my kids more than I find myself wishing I had a way to get away. Embracing my role as a wife, mother, and homemaker really makes all the difference.

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